I think I speak on behalf of all my fellow moms out there when I say that life BC (before children) is a whole other adventure than life as we knew It prior to. The words “I’m so tired,” “I need some me time”, and “more laundry?!”….take on a whole new meaning. I try to sympathize when my kid-free friends complain about not having enough time for themselves but quite honestly, I’m biting my tongue as I think to myself, “HA!!!! you just wait!”
As I mentioned in my bio, I launched my business in the midst of birthing, nursing, and raising my three little ones. There wasn’t a lot of time for me to think about HOW I was going to make it happen. I focused on the WHY, took a no excuses approach, and went for it. Not that this is a bragging right but, my business plan consisted of, do more of what works, less of what doesn’t, and try to get some sleep in between!
Was it easy? No. Was it guilt-free? Heck No!!
Did I make mistakes? Yes! Was it worth it? Hell Yeah!!
If I had a dollar for every time I heard the words, “Why can’t you wait until your kids are older to do this?” from a concerned family member, well I’d have funded my business a little more seamlessly than I did (understatement of the year). But here’s the kicker. The very little people that were the concern around this question, were the ones enjoying the ride with me the most.
My kids have been with me every step of the way. They have been on fabric store trips, crazy long model fittings leading up to my shows, stayed up way past their bed time to attend my fashion shows (upon request), “assisted” me at photo shoots, made a mess in my studio pretending to be fashion designers, and even made a little extra cash here and there steaming clothes (hey, it’s not child labor, it’s child opportunity). Not to mention the amount of mom booty shaking they have gotten to watch at my fitness classes and home choreography sessions (sorry kids). Sure, as my business has grown, and they’ve become school aged, they don’t need to come along to as much anymore. But I have, and continue, to share enough moments with them to know they feel included and love the journey. So much so that they brag to their friends at school about what I do, and their friends think they have a “famous mom” and google me during electronics break (yeah, that’s a thing). I don’t have the heart to tell them I’m mostly only famous at Starbucks right now.
As much as they have been along for the ride, in an effort to be a “good mom”, I have kept their involvement in this part of my life private. I chose to do so for their own safety (you know those internet wackos you hear about) and to avoid looking like I’m using them to appear a certain way. It wasn’t until the past few months that I realized one thing. Not only am I concealing one of the most important aspects of my life, I am also operating out of fear. My journey in building my business has revolved around them and not sharing them with the world is like sharing the cliff notes version of my story.
In addition to wanting to protect my kids, I’ve tried to keep myself on the grateful, positivity train, by adapting a “don’t let them see you sweat” approach to life. Rather than complain about my sleep deprivation or being tired of cross country moves to support a spouse’s career, I’ve embraced the beauty of Jesus, coffee, and lipstick (in that order). And then I wonder why people assume I have a full-time nanny and a lot of support. Because I do not let them see me sweat. It’s like I took a juggling club out of the juggling act I share with the world, and secretly break a sweat trying not to drop it. But, the act at its entirety is way more precious than the edited down version. So, with this re-launch and new life I am breathing into my business, I am going to unapologetically share with you a lot more of my best creations, my children! I hope you’re ready for this new juggling act I like to call MOM LIFE!